For the default parent

Relay

Stop running every leg of the race alone.

Relay is a to-do and scheduling app for busy households. You list everything you keep track of — your kids' doctor appointments, school forms, bills, groceries, the vet — and Relay organizes it into clear areas you can hand to your partner so they own it completely, plus a shared household calendar so nothing slips. Available on iOS and Android; your partner installs nothing.

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The basics

About Relay

In short: Relay is a to-do and scheduling app for busy households — you capture what you keep track of, Relay organizes it into shareable areas, and your household gets one calendar. See it in screenshots ↓

How Relay uses your data

With your explicit permission, Relay reads your calendar (read-only) so it can display your existing events alongside your household's tasks — giving you and your partner one combined view of everyone's commitments. Relay only reads your calendar to show it inside the app; it never creates, edits, or deletes events, and never shares your calendar data with third parties. You can disconnect your calendar at any time, in the app or from your account settings.

For full detail on what data Relay accesses, how it is used, and how it is stored, see our Privacy Policy.

If any of this sounds familiar

You're not alone — and you're not the problem.

“I don't want a helper; I want a partner.”
r/Mommit · 1,172 ↑

“He says he'll ‘help more’ — but that just means I have to manage his chores too.”
r/Mommit

“Still my list, still my problem. Just digital now.”
Cozi review · ★

The tools today are just lists. The problem was never information — it's ownership.

How it works

Three steps. About ten minutes.

Dump everything you carry

In your voice, your writing, or guided templates. Six to eight minutes, no filter.

See it as domains

Relay turns the mess in your head into a dashboard of mental domains — visible for the first time.

Hand one off, completely

Your partner gets a full brief by text — scope, a short audio, a checklist. They install nothing.

Inside the app

One place for what the household runs on.

Your whole mental load, finally visible

Everything you keep track of becomes a dashboard of domains — with one number that shows how the load is actually split.

Capture everything you track — by voice, typing, or guided templates.
Organized into areas — health, school, bills, groceries and more, each with its items, contacts and dates.
Hand one off completely — your partner gets the full brief and checklist, and owns it from there.
Automatic check-ins — Relay follows up on handed-off areas, so you don't have to.

Relay's Mental inventory screen: your load at 68%, a filterable list of domains like Liam's pediatrics and Groceries, each marked with who owns it

A calendar you can both see

Everyone in the household has a calendar — view them side by side, so “who's got Thursday?” stops being a negotiation.

Events and sub-tasks — tied to a domain or not; anytime tasks sit above the day.
Day, week, month — plus a side-by-side daily view of the whole household.
Bring your own calendar — connect Google, Apple or Outlook and your existing events appear alongside the household's, each calendar in its own color.
Why we ask for calendar access — syncing needs to read your events (read-only) to display them here. Relay never creates, edits or deletes events, and never shares them; disconnect anytime.

Relay's household calendar: Sara and Mark's days side by side, with events, an anytime task, and a synced Outlook event in its own color

A mailbox for the household Coming soon

School notices, check-in replies, caught batons — one shared inbox at your household's own address.

Anyone can read anything — Relay just marks who has.
Quiet by default — no red badges, no reminders, no digest to clear.
Reading isn't owning — opening a mail never assigns it to you.

Relay's household mailbox: a shared inbox with search, an unread filter, and read-by avatars showing who in the household has read each mail

Why it's not another organizer

Built for ownership, not to-do lists.

Domains, not loose tasks

Your mental load becomes objects you can see, transfer, and hand off whole — not another flat checklist.

Your partner stays where they are

They participate by text or email — never forced to download or open one more app.

Deep handoffs, not vague asks

Every handoff carries the full scope plus a 3-minute audio explainer. It's a transfer, not “can you help with this?”

Zero delegation tax

After a handoff, the system runs the check-ins — not you. No following up, no nagging, no scoreboard.